DreamBuilders Ministry in Motion (DBMIM) Ezine, July 1, 2008

This has been a hectic few months as all 3 partners have been in transition. As many of you have been reading, Teena Stewart moved several months ago to North Carolina to start a Coffee House Ministry. Last week, Tom Hanover became the Senior Pastor in a church in Dayton, Ohio and Dennis Mohler followed him to be the District Superintendent in the Foothills District of the United Methodist Church in southeast Ohio this week. Hopefully as the summer progresses and boxes get unpacked everybody will get back ... in Motion!

-- Book Review: "Generation Next Parenting: A Savvy Parent’s Guide to Getting it Right," by Tricia Goyer, reviewed by Teena M. Stewart.

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“Only five more sermons to go,” Steve thought as he drove home from the church. He had enjoyed the last six years at Grace Church, but he also understood it was time to move on. He had learned a lot about people, life and ministry here. He had made his share of mistakes and won a few victories, too. So, Steve found himself sorting through a mix of many feelings as he drove home from one last time to do something that was characteristic to ministry.

Steve and his young family were moving to a new church. They were excited about the opportunities and the adventure of the move. They had made the four hour trip to the new town a couple of times to make arrangements about the house, the schools, and other arrangements.

All of these extra time demands both drained and energized Steve. Sometimes he noted that the stress and strain level in the family was higher than usual. Often, he thought it was related to the uncertainties around a move. The kids were feeling the waves of grief of losing good friends. His wife did not know what might be available for the part-time employment she needed to seek. She also wondered if she would have a place or a role in the new church. What would they expect of her? Even the family dog seemed to have unanswered questions.

How does a pastor and family make these transitions? Are there healthy patterns and steps? What can a family learn together about life and each other as they go through these transitions?

Moving experiences are not limited to pastors and their families. Many people go through relocations in our society today. Many of them make these changes in their lives without the support systems on which clergy and their families often depend.

William Bridges, author of Transitions, notes that all transitions are composed of three stages: an ending, a neutral zone, and a new beginning. For pastors changing churches the shifts often go deeper than merely showing up in a different office next week. For pastors and their families, it usually means leaving friends, familiar towns, jobs, houses, and comfortable routines to begin again in a completely different place. These changes go deeper than the surface. They are opportunities to explore who we are and who we choose to become.

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When I was young, I loved watching the plate spinning act at the circus where the man put porcelain plates on top of flexible poles and spun them. The motion kept the precariously balanced plates from falling, but as he added more, some began to wobble. This would set him into action by rushing backwards and forwards as he spun the plates faster keeping his constant attention on the motion of each of the plates. I remember holding my breath fearing the worst. Occasionally, he would lose a plate, but most of the time he maintained control, though even the most proficient plate spinner had a limit on how many plates he could manage before they began to crash.

Most of us can identify with the plate spinner and we can feel as frantic as he is as we spin our own multiple “plates.” We try to balance our time and attention between household management, parenting, marital duties, and work and church commitments, but we may often find that we are off balance.

I enjoy teaching spiritual gifts discovery courses. It is exciting to watch people learn about their gifts, skills, talents and experiences and how they can use them in service to God, but one problem my “students” face is feeling that they are stretched too thin. Many are so involved in other commitments outside of church, they have little time to give back to God.

God gave us our gifts for a purpose. Giving back is a sign of maturity, but how much time and energy we have to give depends on present life responsibilities. A young mom with kids has less extra time than a mom with older children. Single and retired people may have more time to give than married folks. No matter where you fit in, finding your personal balance is crucial.

I recently came back from a writer’s conference feeling overwhelmed. How could I possibly do everything I had on my list? The answer was that I couldn’t. So I set about praying over which things to let go of first, and I have begun purging those I feel should be relinquished or maybe even delegated. It’s not easy to do, but it is very freeing once you start the process.

It is also wise to periodically re-evaluate our lives and commitments and make changes to keep our lives balanced so we can effectively spin those plates. God doesn’t want self-centered followers who care only about themselves and their well-beings. He also doesn’t want overworked and exhausted servants. One of the best questions we can ask ourselves is whether it is crucial for me to be involved in this particular project. In today’s society our most valuable resources is not money or possessions, it’s time. Another question to ask is whether this use of my time is good stewardship.

Pray and listen for God’s answer regarding your many commitments. Force yourself to stop being unproductively busy and really listen to His voice in your life. He will reveal to us what is important to Him. Then decide how to create balance so that you serve Him by fulfilling those obligations that are most important. Without a doubt, it is a delicate balancing act.

Teena Stewart is a published author and ministry consultant and coach for DreamBuilders Ministry in Motion (www.ministryinmotion.net). Her book, Successful Small Groups from Concept to Practice is available through Beacon Hill. For spiritual gifts resources developed by Teena visit http://www.ministryinmotion.net/gift_spiritual.html

If you were born between the years 1961 and 1981, you are considered a “Gen Xer” and are more than likely raising your children based on the values and standards of your day. A large number of Gen Xers grew up as latch key children from dual income households. Many suffered through the fall-out of crumbling marriages where divorce took its toll. Their desire to be perfect parents while managing successful careers and giving their children opportunities they did not have themselves creates a pressure cooker of stress. And they are tugged from one obligation to another while attempting to hold their lives together.

No one understands better than author Tricia Goyer, who is also a Gen Xer and parent. Her book, Generation Next Parenting, incorporates parenting wisdom amidst a nostalgic look back at trends, catch phrases, songs and celebrities. Goyer excels at getting input from real people and she includes honest observations from other Gen X parents regarding their parenting experience. In addition, she incorporates research to back up her parenting advice.

The back of the book includes a study guide with a brief list of questions for each chapter and scripture references related to that topic. How-to books are often dry and dull, but Goyer’s nostalgic playful take and trip down memory lane makes parenting fun.

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DBMIM Ezine July 1, 2008